Happily Whenever After

As a Nigerian lady who’s single in her 40s, Bookie Adekanye gets it. But she’s convinced singleness isn’t a curse to a life of gloom. She’s here to help you shake free of the pressure and live into your purpose! In her sassy, down-to-earth style, Bookie answers all those questions you secretly wonder about:

• How do you manage sexual desire?
• If I’m successful, will I intimidate suitors?
• What are my options if I want children?

In Happily Whenever After, you’ll be inspired by other single women’s journeys. Hilariously relatable moments encourage you that you’re not in this alone. You’ll find biblical encouragement, practical advice, opportunities to reflect, and creative exercises to empower you to build your best life now.

Candid and kind, Bookie reminds you of God’s overwhelming love for you. No matter how society labels you, God says you belong to him. You’re invited to heal from past scars and be your confident, courageous self. The God of the Bible used single ladies to deliver and save, and he definitely has a plan for you.

Bukola bares it all: straight from the heart, just as it is. She speaks to and for the single, marriage-ready woman who is buffeted on all sides by the brutal, never-ending pressures from societal expectations. Is it a crime to not be married? Can a mature single woman ever be happy? What if Mr Right never comes knocking at the door of your heart? You’ll find answers to all of these and more in Happily Whenever After. A must-read for all single ladies. —Mobolaji Banjo, Lead Therapist at Hearttitude eCounseling

Happily Whenever After has blessed me beyond measure! It infused laughter with penetrating questions and exercises that disarmed me in each chapter. Precious single sisters, read this book. Let each rich chapter bring you growth and encouragement as it did for me. Allow God to remind you again and again, “I LOVE YOU”! —Vickie Mitchell, Principal Architect and Engineer

In a world where it is so easy to get lost in one’s emotional, societal, and inner circle pressures, this timely masterpiece helps singles navigate their best life. Non-judgemental and gracious, the author invites you to have a heart conversation on what happily ever after may look like for you. Her take on this much-needed conversation is candid, transparent, hands-on, kind, and humorous. Truly one of the best books on singleness I have read. —Pastor Denise Munroe, Embassy Family Life

I laughed and cried. Witty, original, and very authentic, this book breaks labels and biases, challenging how we have been socialized about marriage and our life journey as women. Whether you are single or married, Happy Whenever After is a book that every woman should own – and so should the men who love them. —Enobong Etuk, CEO of Boldoz Bookstore

Wow! This book brought tears to my eyes. Single ladies, you will feel understood and validated. It expresses the trauma that is so hard to put into words. —Modupe Ehirim, Founder & Lead Counsellor at The Right Fit Marriage Academy

“Why should I live my life fantasising about being walked down the aisle and called Mrs A?” “Why should my success be determined mainly by my ability (or otherwise) to attract a man?” “Why should younger relatives’ weddings make me feel pressure to lie that I’m dating or avoid the wedding?” These are tough piercing bones Happily Whenever After set out to pick with all of us. And I must admit that Bookie Adekanye not only chewed these bones, she crushed them! —Kingsley Obom-Egbulem, Behaviour Change Communication Expert