Run hard after God. If anyone catches up, introduce yourself.
In Baesics, Ernest and Waturi Wamboye give no-nonsense advice on how to build a fulfilling love life and marriage. Find your identity in Christ and become a real, godly man or woman. Learn how to set boundaries, resist lust, and heal from emotional wounds. Once you know the basics, you’ll be ready to meet your BAE.
To say finding a life partner is an important decision is an understatement. No other person has the propensity to affect your life – for the better or for the worse – more than the person you marry. For this reason, it is important that the person you call your lifetime "bae" or spouse is fit for the journey up ahead. Even better, it is important that you are equally equipped for the journey that ensues till death do you part. But where do you start on the journey to finding yourself and to finding love? Only the author of marriage can provide you with the design plan.
Through personal stories, no-nonsense advice, and biblical exposition, Baesics urges you to commit yourself wholeheartedly to Christ, find your identity and purpose before you find a partner, and set appropriate sexual and emotional boundaries. It addresses the world’s myths about what makes one a man or a woman, how to handle temptations such as lust, and how to deal with emotional wounds. Learn the basics for choosing your bae so you can lay a biblical foundation for your love life and the marriage you desire.
Ernest and Waturi Wamboye are a dynamic and engaging couple happily married with two daughters. They write and speak on Christian dating and marriage. They are the founders of The Relationship Centre Ltd, an organization that aims to promote biblical family values in contemporary urban communities in Kenya. The Wamboyes also run various ministries including: Boy Meets Girl, a quarterly relationships forum to help young people marry well; Powerhouse, a men’s pornography addiction recovery program; and Dating Clinic, a couples’ premarital and post-marital forum.
Trained in journalism and discipled by the Navigators, Ernest blogs at www.penstrokes.co.ke, which has won the Blogger Award of Kenya in 2016, 2017, and 2019.
To say that Ernest Wamboye has a divine calling and timely message for today’s youth is a mere understatement. Baesics is the most masterfully woven of his literary tapestry yet! Highly considered by many to be an “African Josh McDowell” equivalent (and who knows – an African James Dobson in his later years?), Ernest hits at the crux of the matter affecting many singles today who are craving for the elusive ‘happily ever after’ that marriage is touted to offer. In this marred world of sin where the stark reality of breakups and divorce seems eons away from the dream of marital utopia, this book sheds a ray of hope to the many disillusioned and broken-hearted singles of today. It is possible to have an immensely joyful and fulfilling man-woman relationship exemplified in holy matrimony as God intended. After all, he is the author of love himself!
Through these pages filled with thought-provoking insights and practical examples, you will discover the Master’s divine secrets to making your relationship and marriage work, drawn from principles stated in his user manual: the Bible. What better way is there to drive your future to success than to follow your Manufacturer’s instructions? True to its name, Baesics takes us back to the basics. This is a must-read for anyone in pursuit of their marriage Eden, where perfect love all began. —Dr Frederick K Wangai, Consultant Physician and Lecturer, University of Nairobi
Baesics is well researched, well presented, biblical, and practical. Ernest’s humour comes through as he draws on everyday examples to illustrate his points. Men and women preparing for marriage will find that Baesics drives them to “know your Master passionately, pursue your mission radically, and you will find your mate graciously.” The truth that “you can only attract someone who pursues the same depth as your pursuit” is well illustrated in the book. For those already married and going through a dry spell, the truth that “actions of love will bring back feelings of love” is well articulated in Baesics. The idea of “falling out of love” should be a foreign concept to the believer that is already married. This book does a splendid job of presenting marriage between a man and a woman the way God intended it.—Dr Stanley W. Mukolwe, Founder of Raising Future Parents, Director of Family Life Ministry at Navigators Africa
I can’t think of a more relevant book for our times. In a world that no longer sees marriage as sacred or even particularly significant, this book shines a beautiful light on how singleness, dating, and marriage can be approached in a God-honouring way. Baesics is written with authority and conviction. The couple’s desire to serve their readers in building relationships with a strong foundation comes through on every page. The writing is compelling and creative, with many real-life examples to make it practical for readers. Above all, the book is filled with the words and wisdom of Scripture, setting it apart from many other “how-to” marriage manuals.
I have watched my young adult daughters navigate the emotional difficulties of singlehood and identity, so I was particularly grateful for the book’s perspective that it’s possible to thrive in singlehood by living a life centred on God. Yet, also for the reminder that “If God could get Adam a mate in a world with no human beings, he can definitely get you one in a world with seven billion.” This is a book I would like to gift to every young person I know (and a few old ones too!). Baesics is a deep and thoughtful read which ultimately teaches us to trust God and wholeheartedly surrender our lives and relationships to him. —Joan Campbell, trustee of Media Associates International–Africa, author of Encounters: Life Changing Moments with Jesus, Journeys: On Ancient Paths of Faith, and The Poison Tree Path Chronicles
Baesics provides a practical blueprint for thriving in romantic relationships. Its first edition left me grateful that I read it before I found my wife. This second edition has renewed the timeless principles that enrich my marriage. The insights and personal stories have helped me to catch the little foxes that ruin the vineyards of purity, level up my emotional IQ, and uproot the idols that creep into my life. It has helped me reaffirm my true identity in Christ, explore the SHAPE of my calling, and clarify God’s design and purpose for relationships. I am indebted to Ernest and Waturi for their ministry. There is so much to be gleaned from this book. —Peter Kamero, lawyer, leader at Christ Is The Answer Ministries’ Bible exposition service